You know what I’m talking about.
You’ve seen it.
You just did not recognize it, because of your own fear.
This is the key.
Maybe I’m crazy, or, maybe, just maybe, I found something.
You’ve seen that face your entire life. Open mouth, raised eyebrows. You know what it is. It’s fear.
…and now you see it all the time on your child. On your beloved child who has been diagnosed with autism, or is suspected to be autistic.
Of course he is afraid. He may be brilliant in many ways, normal in some, but he fears that which he does not understand. Like we all do.
I will tell you what you need to do. Yes, YOU!
Be fearless, everything else is just details.
Easier said than done, right? Well, all you need to do is change yourself so much that you stop fearing. At least when your kid is around. If you have no fear, you might want to get checked, because something is not right with you.
How do you go about it? Here is the checklist:
- Solve you issues. This may take a while, don’t be too hard on yourself.
- Start believing in something. If it’s God or your teddy bear, it really does not matter. Have something to hold on to when the storm comes.
- Love, forgive, laugh. Do your best to keep all negative emotions far away.
- Be prepared for setbacks. All great champions have this in them, and you will be a great champion.
- Talk. Really talk with people. Listen to them, try your best to be present when they communicate with you.
- Help people. However you can, just don’t let that be your main concern.
- Accept you are going to die. This is what separates grown-ups from kids and you can’t be a kid anymore.
Now we can go about our business.
As I’ve said earlier, your kid fears that which he does not understand. Your job is to make him stop fearing. Explain to him what happens, help him overcome his paralysis in front of the things he fears.
Because real fear is when you feel paralyzed, when you stop thinking and can’t react. This is what happens with your kid. At least at first. In time, he may learn inappropriate behaviors which help him cope with his fears. And fear may look like hitting, or shutting down, or spinning around in circles.
It is said an animal chews his paws out of a trap to get away. Your kid is not an animal, don’t let him do that. Teach him how to be human.
More to follow.